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Keeping the Biological Family Involved

Hello Everyone!

While closed adoptions are still an option, research has shown that open adoptions are better for the wellbeing of adoptees. That’s why we are hopeful to have an open (or at least semi-open) adoption. We want to be parents but we know that we will not be the only parents of our future child or children. And that is okay! In my head, that just means more people who will love and support our child in their own way. Our goal is to have the biological or birth family involved in our future child’s life in whatever way they feel most comfortable. That might be getting updates by letters, having access to photographs, having conversations between us to keep each other informed, having meet ups, anything. We want to support and love our future child’s biological mom and dad in any way we can. At the same time, we are working to understand how difficult this situation could be for the biological family. We want to pursue what is best for everyone in this situation. If you prefer to love your child from a distance, we will work with you. If you hope to be more involved, we will work with you on that too. There isn’t a single answer and each adoptive situation is unique. We want to be parents and bring a child into our home to love and care for forever. But that doesn’t mean you, the biological family, plays absolutely no role. We are open to you playing whatever role in our joint child’s life that you are comfortable with.

~Natalie